Thursday, April 17, 2008

So some of you know about the not so fun experience we had with Jacob in school this past year. We ended up taking him out after being in there a month and putting him in a therapy school. Well hes been going to their school and its been awesome!! Come August they are opening it up to a private school. The cost to keep him in is 27,000!!! Can you believe that? I don't see why its so expensive...like anyone is going to be able to pay that. But getting into this school is our only hope for him to have a good education. I tried to get him into the Autism classroom but they said no because they have too many kids but not enough room so hes either going to have to go to a normal class (and if you know Jacob that is so not happening) or the IK class again where he was before. the IK is Integrated Kindergarten. And that's where half the kids have IEP's and have are normal. IEP's are kind of like "rules" that the school has to follow for your child's needs. That's fine but Jacob needs more than just the IK class. He was very aggressive and the teachers couldn't handle him and so would just push him aside. He would come home saying that he was a bad kid and he was crazy...and its from those teachers telling him stuff. He still brings up that hes crazy all the time. We have now made it a joke thing to be crazy because I dont want him thinking that its bad. So, getting to the point...haha. So our only hope to get into this school was to get a scholarship from the state. And they pay some or all of the tuition to the school of choice. So I sent in all my papers...and got a call a few days ago. She told me that Jacob got denied =( I am so sad...I dont know what we are going to do now. I am going to other school districts to see what our options are there. I am visiting Mesa and seeing how their autism classes are and hopefully they wont push Jacob out like Gilbert has. If I have to drive him to school every day, I will for the right school!

With that being said...we are still having major behavior problems with Jacob. The people at his therapy center told me that his behaviors have gotten a whole lot worse in the past week. It seems like every week they are telling me that...haha. I met with them again trying to figure out a positive reinforcement program to come up with that will be used at therapy, at home, out in public, at grandmas house, at a babysitters house...everywhere. And let me tell you, its VERY hard trying to ignore the bad behavior but praise the good behavior. I didnt think it was going to be as hard as it is. Of course your initial reaction to a child doing something bad is to tell them no..but with Jacob we cant do that. Everything works on "5 stars" system. So like if we are at a restaurant or something we would say ok Jacob you need to get 5 stars and if you do you can pick out whatever you want for dessert. So every time he is good you tell him...good job you just got another star until he has his 5 stars. But when he does bad behavior you ignore it completely but the second hes doing good behavior that's when you praise him so he knows that its that kind of behavior that hes supposed to have. It has worked A LOT when ive enforced it...but its so hard to do it at all times. Especially when hes throwing toys or hitting Tyler or something destructive! His eye contact is getting worse also. It makes me wonder if there is something going on that is doing this to him. I wish I was rich I could take him to all these doctors that specialize in these kinds of things that don't take insurance.

Oh, this past weekend we went to a picnic put on by Jacobs therapy center. It was at the Power Ranch Club house thing and it was a lot of fun. But when Jacob would see his therapists he was hiding and did not want to look at any of them or talk to any of them. Then afterwards he told me he was scared. It was really weird. But we had a great time and the boys had a fun time also playing with their friends and playing on the playground.


GO suns!!! Its playoff time! Hopefully they can win it all!!!

And GO Dbacks!!! They are doing awesome this year so far!!!

3 comments:

Sharon said...

Britney, you are the best Mom ever! You truly are a great person. I don't know how I would handle all the crap that gets handed to you from the schools!! Good luck and I am sure everything will work out!!!

Kaylea said...

wow, that is so sad. I;m sorry you didn't get approved. must be so frustrating. I don't know how you do it.

Mike and Deb said...

Hang in there Sis... You and Tom have done a wonderful job with what you have been given. You have two wonderful boys who we adore very much.